This prompted a search for wisdom and inspiration, via StumbleUpon.com naturally. And of course, where else would a single girl like myself find inspiration on my quest for happily-ever-after but the wise and wonderful Carrie Bradshaw. I like to believe that we have some sort of supernatural bond considering that we have the same (fabulous) name.
"Think about it. If you are single, after graduation there isn't one occasion where people celebrate you...Hallmark doesn't make a "Congratulations-You-Didn't-Marry-the-Wrong-Guy" card. And where's the flatware for going on vacation alone?" -Carrie BradshawIt is true. Once you are finished with school, the only milestones that are widely celebrated (outside of birthdays…everybody gets those) include someone else. Weddings, births, anniversaries all require that pesky significant other that has remained elusive thus far.
I am among few of my friends who are seeking fulfillment in my career. As I discussed with one like-minded friend, I want to ‘be’ my job. I love what I do (ie. Writing) so much, that once I find that job that will lead me to a career doing what I love, I want to be that powerful career girl. I want to find my happiness for myself, in my own life and career.
This will, perhaps, take away from a personal life, but lucky for me, my Prince Charming will be as career-focused as I am. So, I've decided to focus on me and getting myself to a place where I'm happy, and then finding someone who will fit into that place. Once I get to my own happily-ever-after, I'll find someone else whose happily-ever-after is in the same neighborhood.
Now famous among my friends, my vision for my future life is thus: I will be wildly successful in non-profit development and/or advocacy, married to a brilliant, ambitious man (who looks great in a suit), and living in northwest DC in a big house just because we can.
I always hold onto my faith that I will get my happily-ever-after. I honestly don’t think I could get up everyday and go through the mundane routine that has become my life without the hope that it could get better. Let’s face it, there’s a whole lot of up from where I’m at now, and something’s got to give sometime soon. Maybe it won’t be at the ‘right’ time. Maybe it won’t happen in the way I think it should. But, I have learned that most good things in life are worth waiting for once they do finally come along.
So, until then, I will follow another one of the fabulous Miss Bradshaw's bits of wisdom:
"The fact is, sometimes it's really hard to walk in a single woman's shoes. That's why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun."